1. Write the following question where everyone can see it: "What Is Sex?" Ask students, "What is sex? What are the different ways people can express their sexuality? What are the things they do to be sexual?" Elicit as many responses as you can, writing them below the question "What Is Sex?" (Prompt for answers that go well beyond oral, anal or vaginal sex to include things like dressing sexily, talking, looking, touching, kissing, masturbation, mutual masturbation, rubbing against each others� bodies, nibbling each others� earlobes, dancing close � even watching sexy videos! Encourage students to be creative.) Use the following questions to guide discussion:
Why do you think many people limit their definition of sex � and their sexual activities � to sexual intercourse?
Which activities do you think put people most at risk for an unwanted pregnancy? For a sexually transmitted disease? (Circle these activities � oral, anal and vaginal sex � in red.)
If a couple avoids these three high-risk activities, but engages in many of the other activities listed, is it still possible for them to give and receive sexual pleasure? Have orgasms? Are they still having sex? Explain your answer.
2. Have students read: "Oral Arguments: Is Oral Sex a Safe Bet?" on Page 7. Use the following questions to guide discussion:
Is oral sex sex? Why or why not?
If you have oral sex, are you still a virgin? Why or why not?
When it comes to virginity, why, logically, would penile penetration of one bodily orifice (the vagina) "count" more than penile penetration of other bodily orifices (the anus, the mouth)? Why does giving and receiving sexual pleasure using bodily orifices "count" more than giving and receiving sexual pleasure with other parts of the body � the hands, for example?
The article says that some girls say they engage in oral sex to get their boyfriends to love them. Does having oral sex make a relationship closer? What about vaginal sex? Explain your answer.
The article says girls who engage in oral sex might get a reputation. What does that mean? Why do you think girls who engage in oral sex might get a rep while the guys who engage in it with them won�t? Would this be an example of the double standard? Why do you think a double standard exists when it comes to oral sex?
Is oral sex safer than vaginal sex? Why or why not?
What are some of the diseases that one can contract through oral sex? What if the guy doesn�t ejaculate during oral sex? Can you still contract a disease? Explain. What if oral sex is only performed on a female? Can you still contract a disease? Explain.
What is the best way to protect yourself from contracting an STD from oral sex? What is the next best way?
What advice would you give to Brandy about whether or not she should have oral sex with her boyfriend?
